A friend asked me where the tradition of my husband following his stupid comments with “I love you” came from, and when I told her the rambling yet vague version, she suggested I whip up a post instead. Because I don’t make sense when I talk, I really don’t. Unless you’re physically in front of me, and can follow along with my hand gestures and animated expressions. We were on the phone, though.
At first, I was a little reluctant to try to explain this one, but on reflection it really is a classic illustration of our relationship and dynamic. This particular Conversation occurred before we were married.
HIM: (says something hopelessly stupid, laughs at himself)
ME: (sighs) I love you.
HIM: You always say that when I… wait… are you reminding yourself?
ME: I think so, yeah.
HIM: Hmmm… good thing I’ll never run out of stupid things to say. No chance that you’ll forget how much you love me!
ME: (unimpressed face)
ME: You know, it occurs to me that I’m always the one to say it first.
HIM: That’s just because I’m always busy saying something stupid.
HIM: Wait… that came out wrong… You love me! (smiles)
ME: That’s it. From now on, I’M not going to remind myself. It’s just reassuring you and enabling this behavior.
HIM: So… you want me to remind you?
ME: No, I’d rather you just stop saying stupid things!
HIM: I can’t just stop talking!!!
ME: (pointed look)
HIM: I love you!